How was Valentine's Day, this last time? Was it good or bad? Was your evening fun? And... were you with a special girl?
If things went well, then good! May it continue throughout the rest of the year for you!
If it wasn't so good, let's take the time to consider what we can do for next time. We have an entire year to prepare! Let's get to it.
The budding question is: What can I do in one year to improve my chances of having a wonderful date for next year, and possible a great girl friend that I can spend a lot of time with? Ask yourself that.
I prefer a three part attack. The three parts are as follows - myself, my interactions with others, and my social circle. I'll get into each of them, and you can analyze each factor, and see how you can improve.
The first part is yourself. There are abundant ways to improve the self. An entire industry worth, in fact. Let's look at what can make you more attractive and improve your chance with women, however.
You can improve your looks, more than likely. Are you in shape? This well help you. A well toned body is good. It's NOT paramount in success with women. But it can help your odds dramatically, and that is what we are looking for. Take up a simple exercise class, three times a week. Or try to spend time outdoors. walk, jog, bike. Weightlifting can help too by raising your testosterone.
Are you up to date with fashion? Look at how you dress. Are your clothes several years old? How about your hairstyle? Start with your hair. Go to a good hairstylist, and see what he or she can do for you. Take the inspiration you'll get from a decent hair style and translate it into a good look.
Hit up a nice clothing store, and try on some new clothes. Take your time! You want to really get a feel of what you can pull off.
Improving the internal factors. Your self confidence, and self esteem come to mind. Improve these, and your love life will dramatically improve. How? It's beyond the scope of this article, but if you go to my website, I can definitely help you improve these parts of you.
Improving any of the above mentioned things will literally force the world to see you differently.
The next part is to improve your interactions with other people. For the most part, it will take more than just one article to turn things around. Check my website later on for more information. For now, let's take a look at some things you can do immediately.
Take the time to think about how you are addressing others. Is your voice resonant? Do you stand up straight? Do you look others in the eye when you address them? Do you have a firm handshake?
For your voice, I'd recommend buying a book or audio set. Take the time to follow the instructions, and really see if you can make your voice more resonant. Another recommendation would be a voice coach, if you can afford one and feel like you have a real issue.
For posture, see if you can take a workshop or some classes of yoga, Alexander Technique, or Feldenkrais method. Any of these will go a long way of helping you create a healthy posture, and allowing you to move more youthfully. And believe me, that's a big part of attraction. Watch a middle aged person move for 10 minutes. Then watch a 20 year old woman.
The other parts are easy. Practice looking other people in the eye while addressing them. Hold their gaze a little too long. They might look away. It's okay, go a bit outside of your comfort zone. The idea is to expand it.
With the handshake, just practice being firm. Easy enough, right? It will translate later on into greater self esteem, or the appearance thereof.
The last thing you should work on is to improve your social circle. The idea is to expand it. It's fairly easy - go out to places you don't normally go. Exposure to new social circles will allow the chance to meet more people. It takes some effort but you can expand your friend base exponentially in a few months if you try.
Work on the basics above, and this time next year you will be in a far better position as far as date potential goes. You might even have a choice of who to take. Good luck!
If things went well, then good! May it continue throughout the rest of the year for you!
If it wasn't so good, let's take the time to consider what we can do for next time. We have an entire year to prepare! Let's get to it.
The budding question is: What can I do in one year to improve my chances of having a wonderful date for next year, and possible a great girl friend that I can spend a lot of time with? Ask yourself that.
I prefer a three part attack. The three parts are as follows - myself, my interactions with others, and my social circle. I'll get into each of them, and you can analyze each factor, and see how you can improve.
The first part is yourself. There are abundant ways to improve the self. An entire industry worth, in fact. Let's look at what can make you more attractive and improve your chance with women, however.
You can improve your looks, more than likely. Are you in shape? This well help you. A well toned body is good. It's NOT paramount in success with women. But it can help your odds dramatically, and that is what we are looking for. Take up a simple exercise class, three times a week. Or try to spend time outdoors. walk, jog, bike. Weightlifting can help too by raising your testosterone.
Are you up to date with fashion? Look at how you dress. Are your clothes several years old? How about your hairstyle? Start with your hair. Go to a good hairstylist, and see what he or she can do for you. Take the inspiration you'll get from a decent hair style and translate it into a good look.
Hit up a nice clothing store, and try on some new clothes. Take your time! You want to really get a feel of what you can pull off.
Improving the internal factors. Your self confidence, and self esteem come to mind. Improve these, and your love life will dramatically improve. How? It's beyond the scope of this article, but if you go to my website, I can definitely help you improve these parts of you.
Improving any of the above mentioned things will literally force the world to see you differently.
The next part is to improve your interactions with other people. For the most part, it will take more than just one article to turn things around. Check my website later on for more information. For now, let's take a look at some things you can do immediately.
Take the time to think about how you are addressing others. Is your voice resonant? Do you stand up straight? Do you look others in the eye when you address them? Do you have a firm handshake?
For your voice, I'd recommend buying a book or audio set. Take the time to follow the instructions, and really see if you can make your voice more resonant. Another recommendation would be a voice coach, if you can afford one and feel like you have a real issue.
For posture, see if you can take a workshop or some classes of yoga, Alexander Technique, or Feldenkrais method. Any of these will go a long way of helping you create a healthy posture, and allowing you to move more youthfully. And believe me, that's a big part of attraction. Watch a middle aged person move for 10 minutes. Then watch a 20 year old woman.
The other parts are easy. Practice looking other people in the eye while addressing them. Hold their gaze a little too long. They might look away. It's okay, go a bit outside of your comfort zone. The idea is to expand it.
With the handshake, just practice being firm. Easy enough, right? It will translate later on into greater self esteem, or the appearance thereof.
The last thing you should work on is to improve your social circle. The idea is to expand it. It's fairly easy - go out to places you don't normally go. Exposure to new social circles will allow the chance to meet more people. It takes some effort but you can expand your friend base exponentially in a few months if you try.
Work on the basics above, and this time next year you will be in a far better position as far as date potential goes. You might even have a choice of who to take. Good luck!
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